Rebuild your relationship with a modern alternative to trad. marriage counseling.

Find Your Way Back to Each Other
with a
Modern Alternative to
Traditional Marriage Counseling

What Makes This Process Different — and Why It Works

➛  It uses sophisticated diagnostic tools for accuracy.
➛  It addresses core issues, not just surface ones.
➛  It focuses on reconciliation, not treatment.
➛  It is goal & action-oriented, not just talk.
➛  Couples are given tailored exercises
     to deepen their emotional bond.

PHASE 1:  Testing the Waters

Phase 1 Testing the Water
"Giving up is the only sure way to fail."
Gena Showalter
  1. Free 15 Minute Consultation
    Phone  Call me, Dr. Ken Newberger (703-483-0031) for a complimentary 15-minute session.  We'll discuss your challenges and clarify your goals.  Before calling,  please take a moment to read through this page to familiarize yourself with my process and pricing.
  2. The Testing the Waters Session
    Testing the Waters This Foundational Meeting Serves 3 Purposes:
        (a)  It allows me to gather information you and your relationship.
        (b)  It allows you to assess your comfort level with me.
        (c)  It confirms that you are good candidates for this process.
    To Prepare for this Appointment:
    (a)  Click here to provide your Contact info. contact infor. (2 min.).  I will then:  (1) email you a copy of the ground rules (to be signed prior to our session), and (2) register you for the Prepare/Enrich relationship tool (see below).
    (b)  Complete the p-e-online marriage counseling tool Prepare/Enrich Online Assessment (about ½ hour).  The cost is $35 per couple, paid directly to Life Innovations.  Once you both finish, I will receive a combined 25-page report.  I will review it before the session at no additional charge.
    (c)  Fill out a 5-10 min. Goals survey Goals survey.  I will review your answers in advance of our meeting again at no charge.
    Session Length:  2 hours.  Cost:  $360.  Pay here

PHASE 2:  Uncovering Your Underlying Issues

Phase 2 Couple
"When solving problems, dig at the roots instead of just hacking at the leaves."
Anthony D'Angelo
  1. The Conflict Analysis Tool:  An In-Depth Diagnostic Tool
    I developed and successfully used the CAT with over 1,000 clients.
    Conflict Analysis Tool for Couples
    (a) This one-of-a-kind diagnostic instrument, like an x-ray, peers deeply into your relationship from multiple angles.  It typically takes 1.5 to 3.5 hours to complete depending on how much you share.  (You do not need to finish it in one sitting).
    (b) Once your answers are submitted, I will evaluate them both independently and comparatively, making notes throughout.  In a relatively short period of time, I will uncover your core issues.  What I find may surprise you.
  2. Initial Individual Meetings
    One on One Conversation (a) Before each individual meeting, I will review all the data collected thus far.  (b) I will then schedule a private session with each of you.  The purpose of this meeting is for me to gain a deeper understanding of your perspective without challenge from your partner.  Length of of meeting:  2 hours.
  3. Gaining Deep Insight Into Your Reality
    Learning More About You Before our next joint meeting, I will dedicate several hours carefully reviewing all the data gathered from multiple sources listed above:  (a) Results from the Prepare/Enrich Assessment,  (b) Responses from your Goals surveys,  (c) Notes from your initial Testing the Waters session,  (d) Answers from the Conflict Analysis Tool, and  (e) Notes from each of your individual sessions with me.  This amounts to approximately 80-90 pages of data.  I will then develop a goal-oriented agenda that gets to the heart of what needs to be addressed.
    Unfortunately for me, there are no shortcuts to this time-consuming process.  On the other hand, it is:
      Time Saving Process A Time-Saving Process for You.  The work to repair and rebuild your relationship begins in your second  session as a couple (see Phase 3).  You bypass weeks of data-gathering sessions that would not yield the same level of accuracy and insight as does this comprehensive method.

There is a one-time charge of $390 per person (click PayPal button).  This covers the cost of the CAT and approximately 6 hours of my behind-the-scenes work on your behalf described in paragraphs 3b, 4a, and 5 above.  This charge does not include face-to-face meetings.  Note:  I will dedicate up to 10 hours of behind-the-scenes work on your behalf during Phase 3 below at no additional cost to you.

PHASE 3:  Rebuilding Your Relationship

Phase 3 Woman Hugging Man
"Working with couples I am not detached and on neither side.
I am immersed and on both sides at the same time."
Dr. Ken Newberger
  1. Joint Sessions
    Couple with Marriage Counselor Throughout the proceedings, you will each be invited to share your perspective.  Differences will be explored.  To the greatest extent possible, barriers to communication will be removed and replaced by heartfelt conversations.  Various factors contributing to your conflict, including the not-so-obvious ones, will be identified. Solutions that address core issues and enhance reconciliation will be pursued.  Throughout the process, the overarching goal will remain consistent: to strengthen your marriage and create a peaceful, nurturing home for you and your children.
    2. Note:  There may be times when it makes sense for you to discuss something with me one-on-one.  If so, we can schedule a private session between your joint meetings in support of the overall process.
  1. Additional Information
    Happy Family
    • Session Length:  Joint sessions generally run for 1½ - 2 hours.  They may get shorter over time.
    • How Often We Meet:  Usually every other week.  It may be more in the beginning depending upon your situation.
    • Rate:  $180 per hour (with ¼ hr. billing).  This rate includes, at no additional cost, work done on your behalf. I may spend an hour or more, not just 10 minutes, to prepare for your upcoming session.  Additionally, my session hour means a full 60 minutes, not a 45-50 minute so-called "therapy hour."
    • Work-Friendly Hours:  I work both day and evening hours to accomodate your work schedule.
    • Virtual Sessions (sound is off)
      Since Oct. 2024, I have moved from in-office to virtual sessions allowing me to serve couples from all over the country.
      NIH logo
      Research published at the NIH library confirms there is no meaningful difference between in-office and virtual meetings in terms of (a) effectiveness, and (b) client satisfaction.
      In this vein, one my clients remarked, The virtual sessions were well run and we never felt like we were missing out on anything. We truly enjoyed the virtual sessions because they allowed us to be more relaxed in our own environment.
    • Insurance:  My work as a conflict resolution specialist is not covered by medical insurance.
FREE 15 MINUTE CONSULTATION
Research makes clear that the most powerful predictor
of our health, happiness, and longevity isn't what we
eat, how often we exercise, or how much we earn.
It is the quality of our relationships!
The Quality of Our Marital Relationship
Phone  Call me Dr. Ken Newberger, without charge.  Let's discuss
the quality of your marriage with the goal of making it stronger.
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