How Can Coaching One Spouse Improve a Marriage When It Takes Two to Tango?
If only one spouse wants to see a marriage counselor and the other doesn’t, you're not out of options. While it would be ideal for both partners to work together on improving the marriage, positive change can still happen with just one person – you. By focusing on your own growth and behavior, you can influence your partner’s actions. One marriage counselor put it this way, "I really don’t need two people to create wonderful changes in a marriage – and neither do you. You just need you."
This concept is illustrated by the familiar yin-yang symbol. If one side shifts, even slightly, the other side will move as well. In the same way, you have the power to shift the dynamics of your relationship by changing yourself. When you change, the relationship changes. And this is where coaching you in the context of marriage comes in to play.