☛ "People who seek help from marriage counselors usually assume that the goal of therapy is saving the marriage. Unfortunately, most marital therapists are specifically trained to be non-directive or neutral. They see themselves as someone couples can talk to, but not someone who will coach them into changes that will ultimately save their marriage." Clinical psychologist, Willard F. Harley, Jr.
☛ "In a national survey of over 1,000 marriage and family therapists, over 60 percent indicated that they are 'neutral' on marriage versus divorce for their clients. Only one third said: 'I am committed to preserving marriage and avoiding divorce whenever possible.'" Marriage Friendly Therapists website.
☛ Take the case of Stephanie and Max. They were seeking help to heal their relationship. Stephanie revealed, "We were looking for someone to work with us on a specific plan for our marriage. Instead, we got a totally neutral counselor who didn't seem to care whether or not our marriage survived. We weren't neutral about wanting to save our marriage, he was." In the end, they divorced.