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2. Read what clients seeking marital guidance for their relationships have said about Dr. Newberger.
One Husband's Perspective
The following true account represents the kind of issue those engaged in Reston couples therapy regularly address. If you need couples counseling in Reston, get help before things deteriorate.When Janet and I first married, we were excellent friends and enjoyed each other’s company. We were not as intimate as often as I would have preferred, but it was enough to develop a good connection. Today we have two girls who are still relatively young.
After the kids were born, however, we started to drift apart. Jan focused all her attention and affection on our daughters, giving them hugs and kisses. All I would receive was a peck on the cheek. Sex dwindled until it was pretty much non-existent. Sadly, my wife and I are no longer lovers. We are married but living like roommates.
I started questioning myself. My confidence has taken a nose dive. When our sex life dried up, I started exercising. I have never been overweight, but I've become so physically fit that I now have a visible six-pack. I must look good, because I get compliments from both men and women at the gym.
I have repeatedly and directly told Jan about feeling neglected in this marriage. I have asked her why she gives the kids hugs, kisses, snuggles, and random affection but not me, the married roommate. She doesn’t get defensive. She agrees and says she will change but never does. My complaining doesn't do any good. To make things worse, Jan began spending more of her free time with her retired parents, who live nearby. I’ve become an adult version of “Home Alone.”
I am losing motivation. My chores around the house don't get done like they used to. “What's the point?” Whether I mow the lawn or not, I get the same amount of attention and appreciation, hardly any.
We can go for a month or more without sex. Then, out of the blue, she tells me she's interested. I am married but living more like a roommate with occasional “benefits.” I have forgotten what romantic love means. Being married to my wife leaves me feeling used, not loved.
I feel trapped and sometimes depressed because I don’t know how to change my “married roommate” status. Jan is a great mother but not a great wife. As a husband, how much do I have to give up “for the sake of the kids”?
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The issue you may be dealing with in your marriage is likely to be entirely different from this man's struggle in his marriage. If you are looking for marriage counseling in Reston, view my alternative process for couples for Fairfax County, and Loudoun County. Go to: www.MarriageCounselingAlt.com/couples.htm. Then call me, Dr. Ken Newberger, to discuss your situation without charge.
About Reston VA
According to Niche.com, "Reston is a town in Virginia with a population of 61,147. Reston is in Fairfax County and is one of the best places to live in Virginia. Living in Reston offers residents an urban suburban mix feel and most residents own their homes. In Reston there are a lot of restaurants, coffee shops, and parks. Many families and young professionals live in Reston and residents tend to have moderate political views. The public schools in Reston are highly rated."
Of interest, Neihborhoodscout.com notes, "Reston is also a town of artists. Reston has more artists, designers and people working in media than 90% of the communities in America. This concentration of artists helps shape Reston’s character."
According to LongandFoster.com, "Reston is a vibrant community in the heart of Northern Virginia that was founded in 1964 . A planned community, Reston is known worldwide for its forward-thinking concepts of what it means to be able to work and play where you live, and to be connected to those around you. The community includes a variety of neighborhoods from bustling urban settings to wooded tranquil escapes. Within Reston’s neighborhoods, residents enjoy everything from fast food options to fast-casual restaurants to formal dining. Businesses are clustered in the village centers, while residences are spread around the centers. Since open space was important to Reston’s guiding principles, its residents are able to enjoy its many parks and miles of trails. Reston has more than 1,300 acres of maintained open space, including four lakes, three ponds, 20 miles of stream, 800 acres of woodlands, and two golf courses. Meanwhile, in Reston Town Center residents flock to the multitude of restaurants and entertainment options, destination retail, and its pavilion, which serves as a venue for large community events, concerts, and ice skating in the winter."
On a more personal note, one enthusiastic resident of Reston VA stated, "Driving through Reston, an overwhelming sense of home comes over you. My family has lived in Reston for three generations, since before Reston even existed, and growing up in such a special community is something I am extremely grateful for. In Reston, it is impossible to go anywhere without running into a friend, or making a new one. From brunch at Lake Anne plaza, to shopping at Town Center, and sunset boating on Lake Audubon, every day is a movie that you can’t help but replay in your dreams. Arguably the best part of life in Reston, however, is the love its residents have for the town, and each other. Youth sports excite thousands of kids each year, and school dances bring town-wide parades that Restonians of all ages participate in. Hand made art displayed all over town is just one symbol of the love and pride all Restonians feel for their community. Words do not bring justice to how special the town of Reston Virginia is. Living in Reston is the best decision anyone can make."
Said another, "Reston is a wonderful place to live. Multiple green spaces, walking paths connect neighborhoods across the area. One of Virginia's best rated Farmers market, quick access to DC's sites via public transportation provide a diverse set opportunities. Bike trails, community recreation facilities including pools and tennis enable all to stay fit! The area has a diverse population and offers a wide range of dining options for the foodies!"
Reston VA is certainly a great place to live, work, and visit. It is where Dr. Newberger's office is located. Nonetheless, Reston is not immune from the same stresses and strains that plague marriages all over the country. Dr. Newberger offers a cutting-edge alternative to traditional Reston marriage counseling. If you need help to improve your relationship, call Dr. Ken Newberger (Ph.D., Conflict Analysis & Resolution). Dr. Newberger (who additionally also holds a Master of Theology degree) also assists those Reston couples wanting to incorporate Christian marriage counseling into the repair process. Confidentially discuss your situation at no cost. Call 703-483-0031.
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